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Ok, maybe not as easy as 1-2-3, but we do offer three key strategies to help parents and children navigate this challenging phase.
Potty training is one of the most common concerns parents bring to us. Our first piece of advice? Relax.
At PCA, our approach to potty training—like all aspects of child development—emphasizes respect for the child’s growth and independence. The key is to provide freedom for independence while nurturing curiosity. Follow your child’s natural cues instead of imposing a strict timeline.
That said, we recommend starting potty training around age two.
Why? 🤷♀️
This is before the “terrible twos” hit, when “no” becomes a default response as children explore their newfound control over their environment. Getting potty training done before this phase can make the process much smoother.
Potty Training Made Simple: Strategies for Patience, Independence, and Consistency
The potty-training process should be gradual, supportive, and guided by the child’s unique needs. At PCA, we emphasize patience and empowerment while avoiding a reward/punishment dynamic. Here are three strategies for healthy, lower-stress potty training:
1. Observe Developmental Cues
Not all children are ready for potty training at the same time. Look for these signs of readiness:
Walking steadily
Pulling pants up and down independently
Awareness of bodily functions
Following simple instructions
Communicating needs effectively
Showing interest in bathroom habits
Seeking privacy when filling a diaper
Asking for a diaper change
Tip: Model bathroom behavior.
Bring your child to the bathroom with you, talk them through the process, and remain calm and matter-of-fact. If you’re relaxed, your child will be, too.
2. Encourage Independence
We prioritize maximum, age-appropriate independence at PCA, and potty training is no exception. Montessori principles promote children’s confidence and sense of accomplishment by encouraging them to do things for themselves.
Here’s how to set your child up for success:
Child-size tools: Provide a potty seat and step stool for easy access to the toilet and sink.
Simple clothing: Avoid tricky outfits like skinny jeans that are hard to remove quickly. Choose pull-on garments during this phase to minimize accidents.
Involve your child: Let them pick out their own underwear, soap, or towel. Giving them control over small choices makes the process engaging and personal.
Tip: Skip pull-ups.
Stick to diapers or underwear to avoid sending mixed signals. Pull-ups feel like diapers and can confuse the process.
3. Create Consistent Routines
Consistency is key, but flexibility within a structured framework is just as important. Here’s how to strike the right balance:
Regular bathroom times: Encourage trips to the bathroom at predictable intervals, such as after meals, following naps, and before bed.
Avoid rewards and praise: Celebrate the child’s pride in their accomplishment instead of relying on external rewards like stickers or candy. For example, say: “I see you pooped in the potty! That must make your body feel better.”
Seize the moment: When signs of readiness appear, take advantage. Waiting until life is “less busy” may result in missed opportunities.
Tip: Start early.
Aim to begin potty training between one and two years old, before the “no” phase complicates the process. Ensure the child has met most readiness markers for better success.
Building Trust Through Respect and Consistency
PCA’s approach to potty training mirrors our philosophy for all aspects of child development: respect the individual, observe their cues, and adapt to their needs.
By following your child’s natural rhythm rather than a rigid timeline, you’ll reduce stress for both you and your child.
Potty training, when done thoughtfully, can even become a bonding opportunity—a chance to demonstrate respect, trust, and support. Remember, it’s the day-to-day consistency, not grand milestones, that builds your child’s confidence and trust in the process.
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